Another post I’ve found in my drafts. You can tell this one was written a little while ago because it completely focuses on Stan, with no mention of Izzy. [I've just checked the date, and it was written in January 2011 - I don't think we even knew about her back then]
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I’ve been asked a few times what I’d like Stan to be when he’s older. I’ve given various answers. Here’s my current one.
Of course, in an ideal world Stan would be just like his old man: A music loving, left-wing geek. But his old man (Jesus, I’m talking about myself in the 3rd person here..) is proof that this doesn’t always happen.
Unlike my Dad, I don’t:
- support Bristol City (I support Spurs)
- have a passing interest in music (I love the stuff)
- have no clue about technology (again, I love the stuff)
The differences were evident as we were shoe shopping the other day. Not much bores me more. Given that my dad spent his career in the shoe business (in much the same way I hope to spend my career in technology), I mentioned how I hope Stan is far more enthusiastic about technology than I am about shoes.
So given that it’s a tall order to expect Stan to be a music loving, left-wing geek, what would I like Stan to be when he’s older?
Two things. At least for now.
First off, I’d like him to be open-minded. I don’t want him to think any less of people just because they’re black, gay, rich or poor, dress differently or are into different things than him. And with that in mind, if he happens to be gay, I’d support him all the way. For starters I don’t consider it a choice, but even if it were, that’s his choice to make. I wouldn’t want him to dread telling his old man. And along those lines, I wouldn’t want anyone to fear what Stan might think about them.
Secondly, I want him to be passionate about things. I think it’s important to have hobbies and interests. To not go through life simply to work and that’s it. I know people who do that and they tend to judge people who do have hobbies they don’t agree with (I can think of a few people who would think I’m both sad and wasting my time for writing a blog, but fuck it, I enjoy it so what’s the problem? “Get out more?”. Why bother when I’m perfectly content doing this).
As long as it’s legal and doesn’t hurt others, I don’t really mind what Stan get’s passionate about, as long as he enjoys it. Again, it would be great if it were music and tech, but if it were skate boarding, writing rap music or playing the flute I’d be a very happy dad. Right now he’s passionate about Mickey Mouse (and by passionate, I really mean addicted). Yes it’s a little concerning that he’s already so dependent on a TV fix, but I’m still chuffed he loves something.
Hopefully that continues as he get’s older.